A few days ago Mrs. Spit published a post that I just can't get out of my head.
I had to make a similar decision - my life or my daughter's. It took two days in the hospital for my husband and I to realize that was our only choice. We never really thought that letting a baby die was an acceptable pregnancy outcome. But - I was pregnant and being pregnant was killing me. So I signed the papers and agreed to deliver my daughter knowing that she had no chance to survive.
I hadn't ever thought about it in terms of abortion until about 6 months later when I heard some news report. And then it dawned on me... I was one of those terribly maligned mothers... I had chosen to end my child's life in favor of saving my own. Beleive me I have beat myself up everyday because I couldn't save my daughter - but to know that someone out there who had no idea who I was hated me because of that was really shocking.
I don't want to get embroiled in a debate about what's right and what's wrong. I just know that everyone should be given the respect that they deserve as people whether you agree with their decisions or not. What is right for you may not be what is right for someone else. And for that very reason I have always supported a woman's right to choose. What I would or would not do has nothing to do with what you would or would not be willing to do in any given situaion.
But really - what I wanted to say more than anything is THANK YOU! Mrs. Spit for touching on a subject that has become so politically charged we forget that there are real people involved.